Are we Designed for Polyamory?

Are we designed for polyamory (not polygamy, necessarily)?

Most would think no.

And they would also think that the question itself is an attempt for men to secure more sex with various women.

They would be right in the latter, but that is only half the truth.

We already know women want sex just as much as men, but still, generally, want relationships even more.

And polyamory (outside of the mormon and other christian standards) means a woman, not just the men, can fall in love and marry several people.

As pointed out in this study, polyamory is more advantageous for women as they will have access to more intimate relationships. Not just with, necessarily, multiple men, but also with the other women in a relationship with her husband/husbands.

However, here is a secret ladies...men also want relationships (at least the emotion of love) with their sex (it feels x1000 better to fuck a girl we had a crush on for years than some random club slut...even if she is a 10...any guy that says different hasn't nailed a 10 yet).

Men who have sex with lots of different women (not those loser pickup artist guys trying to sell their products) try to become emotionally attached to these girls before having sex (usually by going on a second date before sex). Why? Because the one-night stand is no longer fulfilling to them.

Women who are happily married, but horny enough, will say "Fuck my husband! I just want some dirty cock night!"

So men and women both want sex with various partners and relationships. End of story.

But the current system of monogamous marriage creates a lot of frustrated men and women (it goes against their DNA).

Finally, a lot of the tribes that still exist today have women and men with several husbands and wives. And they are completely happy.

As much as I like to whack it to internet porn and enjoy sex (especially with a new girl) it isn't natural.

I know this from the empty feeling you get afterwards. Its like when you pig out on ice cream and you feel like shit after. That is usually the same with casual sex. You look forward to it. You really enjoy it while you are doing it. But once you are done you feel dirty.

But what is natural is falling in love and having sex with that person (casual sex is born out of sexual frustration not true desire). 

Falling in love does not always happen just once. And just because it happens again doesn't mean you fall out of love with the other person.

And studies show that we are clearly happier (and healthier) being in a relationship than being alone and having lots of casual sex. article

Of course, there is the issue of jealousy. But this is solved by communicating and respecting people's desires. Something most polyamory groups are good at. And, not surprisingly, there is little jealousy found in those relationships (even less than swingers). study

All I'm saying is the desire to fall in love and finding yourself physically attracted to multiple people is natural (for both men and women).

But you have to ask yourself, does the current system work the best to make you happy?

If not, you should be willing to consider other options (but most are too scared to ever try something that goes against the status quo, in other words, they are being a pussy). Or else you'll be living an empty life.